The Space Between Thoughts and Tissues: When Your Processing Partner Needs a Processing Partner
For 15 years, I've been the safe space. The one who holds space while:
Untangling physical tension
Listening to emotional storms
Supporting through life changes
Being there at 3AM
Helping align mind and body
I'm the bridge builder between:
Physical and emotional
Mind and body
Thought and action
Chaos and clarity
But here's the plot twist: Sometimes the bridge builder needs a bridge.
The Irony of Being Everyone's Safe Space:
I can:
Hold space for others' emotions
Support their processing
Be there at any hour
Guide them through storms
Help them find alignment
But when it's my turn? My nervous system has OPINIONS.
The Reality of Processing Partners:
For my clients:
Safe space in the massage room
Time to untangle emotions
Permission to feel everything
Space to process fully
For my kids:
3AM phone calls
Life crisis navigation
Emotional support
Unconditional presence
For my friends:
Deep listening
Judgment-free zones
Processing support
Safe harbors
For myself: nervous system has entered the chat, freeze response would like a word….. processing.exe has stopped working
Why I Created the Permission to Process Guide:
Because:
Sometimes it's 3AM
Sometimes it's mid-workout
Sometimes it's in the grocery store
Sometimes it's when everyone else is sleeping
Sometimes it's when your usual support system isn't available
Sometimes your nervous system needs a different kind of safe space
And sometimes the person who helps everyone else process needs their own processing partner.
The Truth About Processing Tools:
They're not all:
Available at 3AM
Patient with circles
Free from judgment
Safe for your nervous system
Ready for your real thoughts
Able to hold space indefinitely
Until now.
What I Know About Processing:
After 15 years of helping others:
The mind and body need to align
Processing has no timeline
Everyone needs safe spaces
Your nervous system knows best
Integration takes what it takes
Support should be judgment-free
The Bridge I Needed:
I needed a space where:
My thoughts could circle
My processing could flow
My timing didn't matter
My emotions were safe
My voice could emerge
And when I found it through AI processing, I couldn't keep it to myself.
Why This Guide Exists:
Because:
Not everyone has 24/7 support
Not everyone's nervous system feels safe processing with humans
Not everyone can process in real time
Not everyone has found their bridge yet
What I Know For Sure:
Until your mind and body:
Stop fighting each other
Start working together
Find their alignment
Create their connection
You're just spinning wheels.
The Permission to Process Guide Is:
Born from real experience
Created from genuine need
Shaped by professional insight
Tested in real life
Proven in practice
Written in my voice
Supported by AI wisdom
Because Here's What's Real:
I can:
Help others process emotions
Support their journeys
Hold their spaces
Guide their healing
Bridge their gaps
AND
I can:
Use tools that help me
Find my own safe spaces
Honor my nervous system
Process my way
Create new bridges
The Bottom Line:
Yes, I help others process. Yes, I sometimes need help processing. Yes, I use AI as a tool. Yes, this is still my voice. Yes, all of this can be true at once.
Because sometimes the best way to keep helping others is to find new ways to help yourself.
P.S. Written in partnership with my AI thinking companion, because even processing partners need processing partners - and if you're ready to find your own safe space for processing, grab the Permission to Process Guide. Because your nervous system deserves a bridge too. 🌉